Any mom who cares for a growing child knows the importance of praise in their children's life. Not only does it help to build a healthy sense of self esteem, it also reminds a child that he or she is loved. In the same way, any wife who cares for her husband will also know the importance of praise in a marriage. It's vital to a growing relationship.
What is praise exactly? It's a positive expression we offer another that shows our admiration and approval of who they are.
Do you realize that there are four verses in Proverbs alone that talk about nagging wives? They are referred to as quarrelsome, fretful, and a continual dripping. If you've ever experienced a leaky roof, you'll know how annoying that is. We experienced one about 20 years ago in our back porch, and regardless of how many times I emptied the pail it would only fill up again. That's the danger with nagging. It can become a never-ending habit if left unchecked, and unfortunately it festers resentment.
Praise on the other hand has the reverse affect. It builds the bond of marriage and draws a couple closer together. That's only two of the benefits, let's take a look at five more!
5 Reasons to Praise Your Husband:
1. When you affirm him you are affirming your adoration of him. Knowing that someone loves you deeply strengthens the bond of marriage. Think of it this way: we form the strongest friendships with those that we deeply trust.
2. When you praise him for the little things he does, it's more likely that he'll be encouraged to repeat them in the future.
3. When I praise my husband whether it be in his presence or in his absence, we bear witness of our marriage covenant. Keeping in mind that marriage reflects the covenant between Jesus Christ and the church it's important to honor our vows in the best way we know how.
4. Kindness is an attractive quality. There's no possible way a wife can be attractive when she's constantly nagging her husband. Sure, you can put the pretty on, but unless you're also attractive it wears thin. There's nothing appealing about a critical spirit.
5. He'll be glad to come home. Let's face it, the world is tough place. Many of our husbands are dealing with difficult situations at work and need a sense of relief when they walk through the door. Unfortunately some other husbands are working with women who are building them up outside of the home. If we want a husband who is glad to come home to his wife, we can make him feel welcome by letting him know that we appreciate him, that we respect him, and that we're glad he is with us.
Finally, let's remember what we talked about the other day in the "A Million Tiny Things Challenge": "The more we give strength to positive thoughts, our negative thoughts lose power.
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Thanks for a great post that I fully intend to honor and follow through on tonight with my wonderful husband. Love what you continually do to uplift and affirm marriage! Keep it up, Darlene - you rock!!
ReplyDeleteYou are such a sweet encouragement, thank you, Marianne!
DeleteThis was excellent and biblical, but sadly, not popular today. The truth does not change, but mankind does. Please keep putting forth the truth and God bless you.
ReplyDeleteYes, unfortunately it's less popular every day. God is the same yesterday, today and forever! Bless you!
DeleteI have been following your blog for several months now and I must say I am grateful for however or whomever it was that linked me up to you!
ReplyDeleteYou are very encouraging on the days I need it most!
I thank you, my husband thanks you and my children thank you for this series you are doing.
We are being richly blessed and pray you are blessed in return!
That's so awesome, Sue. I'm glad that you found your way here. It's a small world and a big web. LOL
DeleteWonderful advice! Our pastor is doing a series on marriage. He has said that the wife's need is to be loved, and the husband's need is to be respected. When women criticize or nag their husband, he feels that he is not being respected, which causes him to show less love to his wife, which causes her to show him less respect. So it's a vicious cycle! Thanks for hosting, & God bless!
ReplyDeleteReminds me of the book, "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emerson. I've read a bit of it, and that's the message they preach too. So true!
DeleteI am so happy and blessed to have found this wonderful site, in these times today everyone seems to think that if it isn't working it is ok to just quit and divorce. I believe that love is worth fighting for and that all marriages have the potential to be great if they are God centered. Thank you for the wonderful advice and words of encouragement found here to support marriage and family.
ReplyDeleteAmen! Love IS worth fighting for! :D
DeleteGreat advice, and a wonderful challenge! It's a pretty commonly accepted notion that women need affirmation and reminders of love from their spouse, but men need it just as much as we do! My mother pointed me to your blog, and I am really enjoying reading it. I'll accept this challenge, although my husband may think I'm up to something. I've become quite the nagger as of late! :(
ReplyDelete(BTW, I accidentally linked up on the wrong post, so feel free to delete my linky above, #62)
Doing the challenge! Yay!
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