Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Day 12 - To Walk Through This Life With You


I had just stepped into the hallway when I saw it. One of the most beautiful things one could see--the undying love between a man and his wife.

Dad had been sick for some time already, and the cancer reduced him to about 85 pounds. Looking at him, I wondered if his transparent skin was the only thing left that held him together. He was too weak to sit up without being lifted, and up until two weeks before he passed on, Mom was his sole caregiver, waiting on him both night and day.

The evening we saw her stumbling to help him into his wheelchair, was the night that my sisters and I knew it was time we stepped up. Taking shifts we stayed by his bedside around the clock. Two of us would take the night shift while our mom got some sleep, not only because he was difficult to lift but also because we needed to keep one eye on his bed at all times.

Dad was stubborn when it came to the bathroom. He insisted on getting out of bed and if we weren't awake he'd start the descent on his own. I can't tell you how terrified I was that he might fall on the floor. Seriously--at 85 pounds (probably less by this time), he was as frail as a person can possibly be.

With six daughter popping in and out of the house, we spent our afternoons talking, visiting him and helping our mom around the house. But it wasn't until I spent the night there that I realized the extent of what she'd been going through in recent weeks. Keeping him at home instead of having him stay at the hospital was an incredible sacrifice for anyone, never mind the fact that she was eighty-years-old.

But serve him she did, and joyfully. She's always been good at taking care of the family when any of us came down with a cold or a flu; I can't imagine having a better nurse than her.

The thing that caught my eye that day when I stood in the hallway wasn't the fact that she was his nurse. The thing that grabbed by attention and held it there was the reminder that she was the bride of his youth, and he was her groom.

Pulling her close, he looked at her the same way you look at someone when you're about to have your first kiss, and it was obvious to me that they were still as hopelessly in love as the day that they met.

Waving my hand, I motioned my sisters to witness this beautiful sight. And while the three of us looked in from the hallway, we captured their moment and tucked it away in our hearts. Love, 60 years in the making.


Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. - Ecclesiastes 4:9&10


Today's Vow: To Walk Through This Life With You

The Challenge: If your husband is sick, troubled or weary be a companion that remains by his side. And if not? If all is going well in your lives? Praise God for the blessings upon you.  

You are loved by an almighty God,



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15 comments:

  1. What a precious testimony of love! My mom faithfully looked after my dad through all of his illnesses, and he through hers. He lives with Jesus now and yet she still feels his presence as if he is with her. Proving to me that love doesn't really die, it just moves into a different zip code. Thanks so much for hosting today!

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  2. Thank you ....amen.
    God bless you!Mammka

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  3. Wow, all I can say is Wow. That's true love, not the things they show in the movies.

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  4. I've been married 13 years and I pray that we grow old together and get the chance experience deep lifelong love like that. What a nice post!

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  5. This is so beautiful! I pray I can be that kind of wife to the very end. Thank you for sharing this!

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  6. Darlene I have to tell you a short story.. My dad passed away about 2 yrs before my mom (today would be her birthday) as my moms hours were short..I was taking my youngest son to the hospital to see her..he was about 8. As we drove there,I got a call saying I had to hurry.. My son looked at me and said.. Mom ..you know Grandpa and God are cookin Grandma the best meal ever,,just waiting for her.. (my dad was a great cook) That statement he said was straight from God.. I recieve a overflowing peace about her leaving us that night to join My father and Her heavenly Fathter.. Two are better than one..Amen and Amen

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  7. Darlene, this is beautiful.. sitting here dripping tears on my laptop as I picture the scene. What a gift that you were able to witness it! Thanks for sharing the gift and spurring me on in prayer for my own marriage today.

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  8. You were truly blessed to see the wonders of such a love! So glad that was the foundation you were given!!! Happy Monday!

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  9. Oh that is a precious and sweet story. Thank you for sharing that!!! TRUE love!!! Hope you are well. Have a great day!!!

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  10. His death was a painful experience in so many ways, but it brought us on a journey through which we saw both faith and love tested by fire. I've never experienced anything like it.

    Thank you for your thoughts, your tears and your fellowship!

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  11. Thank you so much for such a beautiful and truly inspiring post. I have tears in my eyes. I am loving this series!

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  12. Wow, such a beautifully inspiring story. Thank you for sharing this!

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