Why I Love You, But Can’t Hang Out with You Anymore

An Open Letter to my Friends who Talk Bad About Their Husbands: Why I Love You, But Can’t Hang Out with You Anymore.

Guest contributor, Kathi Lipp

Dear Friend,

This is really, really hard for me to do, but I have to tell you why I can’t hang out with you anymore.

I get that marriage is hard. I do. I've fought with my husband (remember, when we got married, we had four teenagers, so we had plenty to “discuss” those first years of marriage,) disagreed with him, and sometimes (OK, many times) not been the wife I needed to be.

But here’s the thing: I want to do better. I want to be the wife that my husband needs. I want to speak well of him and to him. I want to improve, a little bit, everyday.

And when I’m around you, it’s hard. I feel like, because you are throwing your husband under the bus, you want me to throw my husband right under there as well.

I will not have the kinds of conversations that make men the butt of the joke, because not only am I married to a man, but I have two boys I want to respect as men as well.

I will not agree with how awful your husband is because I don’t know his side of the story.

I will not laugh at TV or movies that feature the guys as “Doofus Dads”.

I will not let you bait me into bashing husbands, yours or mine.

I’m sorry if this seems like a unexpected change up – like I’m changing to rules of our relationship. But that uncomfortable laugh that I make when you put down your husband? Gone. From now on, I’m speaking up. It’s not OK to talk about any man like that in my presence. Ever.

Now don’t get me wrong. If you want me to pray for the tough time you’re going through, if you want to cry on my shoulder and have me recommend books on how you can improve your relationship, I will bring the coffee, milk chocolate and password to my Amazon account. I am there for you friend.

But if you only want to complain, and not let God make a miracle out of your marriage, I need to step away. Because I need to be with women who support the men in their life. I want to surround myself with women who are not perfect wives, but will inspire me to be the wife that follows God and blesses her husband out of the overflow of that relationship with God.

So if you want to be that kind of girl – come on over to my house.

But if not, I’m going to need to bow out. I know that God wants more for you than what you have now. I’ll be here when you want that cup of coffee.

Blessings,

Kathi Lipp

Kathi Lipp helps women renovate their lives, their relationships, and their connection to God. She is a national speaker and author who inspires thousands each year to take beneficial action steps in their personal, marital, and spiritual lives. Her wit and wisdom give hope to men and women across the US and Canada to not settle for less than God’s loving plan for their lives.

Kathi is the author of six books with Harvest House Publishers and Revell Publishers including The Husband Project and Praying God’s Word for Your Husband(releasing Summer of 2012). She’s the author of dozens of magazine articles for such organizations as Focus on the Family, Crosswalk.com, MOPS.org, and Nickelodeon TV’s Parent Connect as well as being a columnist for MOPS MomsNext Magazine. Kathi is a frequent guest on radio and television programs and was named “Best of Broadcasts” by Focus on the Family.

Find out more about Kathi at KathiLipp.com.

http://www.kathilipp.com

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